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The Law of Attraction

Last week I discovered that the law of attraction is dead. I was meditating (on the bus) and suddenly the words came to me “The Law Of Attraction Is Dead”. I was really surprised, and confused. But it all made sense to me.

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The Law of Attraction is Disempowering

I know I have been frustrated for years with the Law of Attraction. It just doesn’t seem to be working for me, as a matter of fact it is leaving me unsatisfied with what I’ve got. But what I learned was, was that the LOA really is very disempowering. In it’s simplest form, the Law of Attraction states that you need to visualise what you want and it will come to you, because “Like attracts Like.”

As a coach the first thing I explain to my clients is “cause and effect”. If you are at cause you “create what is happening in your life”, if you are on the effect side of the equation “you wait for things to happen and you blame others if things go wrong”. And this is exactly what the Law of Attraction is about.

So what does it mean?

Instead of visualising and “attracting”, which puts the responsibility externally and gives you power away to what you want, you need to “align” yourself with what it is that you want.  In other words, instead of waiting for something to happen to you (effect) you are moving towards it until you are part of it.

Let me see if I can explain this. Say that you have $50,000 a year to live on, but you want to “attract” (to you) living on $100,000. Effectively what you are saying is “I am staying here living on $50,000, and this experience of living on $100,000 needs to come (down) to my level. Now you are equating the new experience to the old experience and it disappears.

 

But let’s say, that you want to be like Richard Branson wealthy and charismatic (if that is what you believe). You don’t know him (if you do, I would like to lunch with him) and you don’t know what that it is like to be him, simply because you’re not him.

On the other hand, you probably do know that everything is energy. You vibrate at a certain level, so does Richard Branson. Now it is up to you to start transforming your energy so it starts to vibrate at the level of Richard Branson. You don’t know what that energy is or what that feels like because you have never experienced it before.

You don’t know what it feels like, so how can you apply the Law of Attraction?

This is the biggest challenge of this new way of thinking, this new way of creating. Unless you have experienced the perfect situation of where you want to be you are going to have to trust yourself that you are able to resonate energetically with what it is that you want.

But there are a few tips that I can give which will help you to achieve alignment:

  • Know what to ask for. Because you don’t know what it is that you want, you can’t ask for anything measurable. In other words, you don’t ask for $100,000 but ask for the experience of living on a $100,000. I also call this externally vs internally focused.
  • The Trinity of Success: This can really help you in identifying if you are on the right track.
  • Assessment: During visualisation see if you can experience the difference between your current situation and the new situation.
  • Awareness: Notice any changes. Are you attracting new people, are you feeling better about what is happening.
  • Be clear on your purpose. A BIG purpose will give you BIG results in life.

The outcome.

The amazing result of this approach is that you are actually starting to better energy into your life. So even though you won’t be as successful as Richard Branson within a month, you will certainly start to feel more alignment with your own life bring you more happiness and fulfilment doing what you already do. And you know what they say: Like attracts Like.

 

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Please leave your feedback and share the change you have experienced with this new way of creating your prefect life. Please leave a comment below.

 

 

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