The Law of Attraction
Last week I discovered that the law of attraction is dead. I was meditating (on the bus), and suddenly the words came to me "The Law Of Attraction Is Dead". I was shocked and confused. But it all made sense to me.
The Law of Attraction is Dis-empowering
I know I have been frustrated for years with the Law of Attraction. It just doesn't seem to be working for me. As a matter of fact, it is leaving me unsatisfied with what I've got. But what I learned was, was that the LOA is very disempowering. In its purest form, the Law of Attraction states that you need to visualise what you want, and it will come to you because "Like attracts Like."
As a coach, I first explain "cause and effect" to my clients. If you are at cause, you "create what is happening in your life." If you are on the effect side of the equation, you wait for things to happen and blame others if things go wrong". And this is what the Law of Attraction is about.
So what does it mean?
Instead of visualising and "attracting", which puts the responsibility externally and gives you power away to what you want, you need to "align" yourself with what you want. In other words, instead of waiting for something to happen to you (effect), you move towards it until you are part of it.
Let me see if I can explain this. Say that you have $50,000 a year to live on, but you want to "attract" (to you) living on $100,000. Effectively, you are saying, "I am staying here living on $50,000, and this experience of living on $100,000 needs to come (down) to my level. Now you are equating your vision to what you're familiar with, and it disappears.
But let's say you want to be like Richard Branson, wealthy and charismatic (if that is what you believe). You don't know him (if you do, I would like to have lunch with him), and you don't know what it is like to be him simply because you're not him.
On the other hand, you probably do know that everything is energy. You vibrate at a certain level, and so does Richard Branson. Now it is up to you to start transforming your energy so it starts to shake at the level of Richard Branson. You don't know what that energy is or feels like because you have never experienced it before.
You don't know what it feels like, so how can you apply the Law of Attraction?
The book "The Secret" makes it look so simple: You think about it, and it happens. But it is a little more than that.
The biggest challenge of this new way of thinking is this new way of creating. Unless you have experienced the perfect situation where you want to be, you will have to trust that you can resonate energetically with what you want.
But there are a few tips that I can give which will help you to achieve alignment:
- Know what to ask for. Because you don't know what you want, you can't ask for anything measurable. In other words, you don't ask for $100,000 but ask for the experience of living on $100,000. I also call this externally vs internally focused.
- You can also imagine what it feels like (you know what feeling happy or confident is like).
- The Trinity of Success (Mindset, Purpose, Heart): This can help you identify if you are on the right track.
- Assessment: During visualisation, see if you can experience the difference between your current and new situations.
- Awareness: Notice any changes. Are you attracting new people? Are you feeling better about what is happening?
- Be clear on your purpose. A BIG goal will give you BIG results in life.
The outcome.
The surprising result of this approach is that you are starting to generate better energy in your life. So even though you won't be as successful as Richard Branson within a month, you will undoubtedly begin to feel more aligned with your own life, bringing you more happiness and fulfilment in doing what you already do. And you know what they say: Like attracts Like.