Picture this: You're getting ready for a date. You met online, and now you're going on your first date. You're nervous. And you start to plan your evening to be more attractive to a potential boyfriend. For most of us, that means opening up the wardrobe, choosing the outfit that impresses most, taking a breath mint and choosing what perfume to wear.
But most of us don't think about what makes us truly attractive. And that is being your authentic self. We often pretend to be somebody we're not to impress the guy on a first date. It's a common thing: we think about how we look and what we can do to impress somebody else, but we forget to consider what makes us unique and what we want in a relationship.
In this blog article, we look at what makes you attractive to somebody else and what will help you build loving and sustainable relationships.
10 Ways to be more attractive
Confidence
Confidence is attractive and exciting to others. It shows that a person values themselves and is comfortable in their own skin. Confidence is a skill you can learn because it is about controlling your inner voice.
Passions and Hobbies
Having genuine passions and hobbies can make a person intriguing. It demonstrates that they have diverse interests and are engaged in activities beyond their daily routine. But on a first date, it is always exciting to see somebody talk passionately about something they are really into. This attitude is contagious.
Sense of Humor
A good sense of humour can be captivating, making interactions enjoyable and light-hearted.
Emotional Intelligence
Being emotionally intelligent allows someone to understand and empathise with others, making them more appealing in relationships. But it also ensures that you end up in a healthy relationship where you're loved and respected.
Curiosity and Open-Mindedness
Life is about learning, and so are relationships. In fact, your partner is the biggest learning experience. Curiosity and open-mindedness give the other person the opportunity to share their experiences. Being open to learning more about your partner will build a bigger and stronger connection.
Independence
Being independent and having a life outside of a relationship can be alluring. It shows that a person is self-sufficient and doesn't rely solely on others for happiness. But be careful to not be too independent, as many people want to feel loved and needed.
Authenticity
Being genuine and authentic is valued in relationships. Pretending to be someone you're not can lead to difficulties in the long run, not just for your relationship but also for yourself. It is human nature to try to please a person when you first start dating, but ultimately, it isn't sustainable in a healthy relationship.
Good Communication Skills
Effective communication is crucial in any relationship. Being able to express oneself clearly and actively listen to others is an attractive trait. Research has shown that most people feel valued when they first meet people when they are listened to. Communication is also about being open and honest about your vulnerabilities in a relationship. It is what is going to help you survive challenges in your relationship.
Positive Attitude
A positive outlook on life can draw others towards a person, creating a pleasant and uplifting atmosphere. Positivity is another one of these emotions that is contagious and uplifting. But being overly optimistic can also signal that you are suppressing your true feelings, emotions, and life experiences that make you who you are. So make sure to stay true to who you are.
Ambition and Drive
Having goals and ambition can be captivating. It shows that a person is motivated and determined to achieve their dreams. Ambition and drive make you attractive. But you need to remember to make time for your partner, so you can give them what they need.
After the butterflies
Beyond the surface-level butterflies, your unique qualities, passions and vulnerabilities form the basis of a sustainable relationship. Ultimately, being true to oneself and continually growing will help you build better relationships. Being authentic, open and willing to be vulnerable enables you to create connections and relationships that stand the test of time.
So the next time you prepare for a date, take a deep breath, look in the mirror, and have faith that authenticity is the key to unlocking the door to lasting love.